Say It So They Actually Hear You

You have had this conversation before. Somehow you ended up explaining your tone instead of your point.

Say It So They Actually Hear You is a hands-on communication workbook for adults who want to say what matters clearly, listen without losing their own place, and know what to do with the answer. Short on time? Start with the two-page quick start and prepare one conversation today. Want more? Work through the eight chapters at your own pace.

This workbook will help you

• Get your point across without it turning into a fight
• Notice when your body reacts before your words do
• Break a pattern neither of you means to repeat
• Set a boundary you can live with
• Repair after disagreement or silence

Inside

• 01. The invisible dialogue
• 02. When your body gets there first
• 03. The pattern neither of you means to repeat
• 04. The safety to speak freely
• 05. The message that can be answered
• 06. Listening without disappearing
• 07. Disagreement, silence and repair
• 08. Making connection part of ordinary life

Plus a conversation library of ten fictional situations that follow the talk past the first sentence, seven small practice steps, four companion letters and 11 private practice pages.

Your download

• 63-page PDF, including the cover
• 11 fillable practice pages: type straight in, or print and write
• Portrait pages that print well on A4
• Written in British English
• Instant download straight after purchase, for personal use

Want the full story behind the method? Speak to Be Heard is the complete 268-page book.

This is a self-help workbook, not therapy. If you feel afraid, controlled or unsafe, please put the exercises aside and contact a specialist support service. In an emergency in the UK, call 999.

About the author

Natalie Jane is a counsellor and ICF-accredited coach who has worked with individuals and couples since 2021. She holds a Level 4 Diploma in Counselling and is the editor of The Relationship Magazine.